The Work of Ownership: When Fantasy Meets Reality

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Dominance: The Ultimate Responsibility and The Ultimate Gift

If you are going to try, go all the way.
Do it, do it, do it.
All the way, all the way, all the way.

Bukowski wrote that, and yes, I'm reasonably sure I just paraphrased it, but I'm not about to go on a GoogleHunt.

The point is this: don't half anything.
Don't dabble.
Don't make a start, then refuse to finish.
Don't allow complacency to color your work or your Love.

Go all the way, all the way, all the damn way.

If you bring a pet into your care, know what you are signing up to do.
You are becoming their source of Control.
You are becoming their Balance.

It's a big fucking job.

You DON'T get to be weak.
You don't get to be trite.
You don't get to be trivial.

You DO get to lead, by example.
You get to establish boundaries, and healthily maintain them.
You get to protect yourself and give protection to your pet, even if  that means protecting yourself and your pet from his/her negative tendencies.

You get to say No:
No, I will not let bad habits slide.
No, I will not indulge brattish and attention-seeking behaviors.
No, I will not allow you to use Me or My time as a distraction from your own problems.

You must be strong: for Yourself, for your pet, for the two of you as a pair, couple, or any other form of relationship.

Dominance is not a pass to a never-ending supply of cunnilingus, blowjobs, no-questions-asked-submission, or whateverthefuck floats your self-serving, self-loving, and/or self-indulgent boat.

Dominance is the ultimate gift.

Only those with quiet strength, self-awareness, and sincere care for others can give it.