The Work of Ownership: When Fantasy Meets Reality

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"How Do You Make a pet/sub/slave Feel Completely Owned?"

"Mme. - i am wondering how you make pets to feel owned? i am wondering for a long time how Women make men feel safe and [like] property."

After a bit of Tweeting back and forth last night, I received the above question in my inbox.

To begin, I applaud the phrasing and joint expression of safety and feeling like property.
To many (I'd imagine the majority) of men, it must seem like a contradiction in terms to feel safe BECAUSE you are property.
So many males will never know the security and peace afforded by letting go of the control to which they cling throughout the work day.
For submissive men, those who are enlightened and privy to the ecstatic release and calm bliss that accompanies being owned, this post may seem like one big "Duh!" moment.

Read it anyway: new perspective should never be ignored.

It is not considered acceptable in much of modern global society for men to feel the security enjoyed by women who are homemakers, stay at home wives, or stay at home mothers - that sense of security and being provided for by the person they happen to adore and trust with their daily well-being as they live productive lives within safe and secure walls.
(I do not, in any way, propose that the means to making pets feel owned is by throwing money at them and inviting them into your home to live with you.)

What I am proposing is that the same sense of security enjoyed by stay-at-home women can be achieved through routine, non-sexual interaction, and creature comforts delivered in a manner that allow male slaves/pets/subs to access that sense of being provided for outside of the standard (and glorious) sexualized aspects of power-exchange.

Yes, sexual play feeds the pleasure centers of men's (and women's) brains and endears their bodies and minds to us, their Dommes.
Yes, orgasms are one of the surest ways to bind one being to another.
However, we CANNOT discount the great comfort of food and drink and bodily care, and the incorporation of it into our routines with our submissives.
The way to a man's true comfort and safety, to securing his devotion, enthrallment, and willing abandonment of power, is by encompassing all bodily comfort during play and daily routines.

Let's begin with grooming - the simple act of bathing a pet and of soothing the mind and body through warm water and soap.
How simple.
How innate a desire to give and receive such treatment.
How human.
We are giving our submissives permission to be human, around us:
not their job titles, not their macho-vanilla-world facades - just human;
naked, washed, clean, cleansed, and part of a routine that affords both exposure and security in the same act.

Moving on to eating and drinking: what simpler way could there be to provide?
It's certainly the most basic of needs - the need for water during a long and intense session.
Filling my own mouth with cold water and kissing a blindfolded submissive provides intense relief and total ownership.
I have become life, beyond metaphor and romantic notion, in providing the water necessary to keep my submissive lucid and hydrated while he is in restraints.
In the same manner, feeding small bits of pretzels covered in dark chocolate keeps the blood sugar levels stable if I am putting a sub through his/her paces. There is no room for depletion - and there is no room for weakness, physically.
A session must leave both the Domme and sub invigorated. Subspace imparting stunned bliss and relaxation, Dommespace providing the electric high that can be ridden for hours.

Food, especially full meals, can be incorporated into sessions as a way of gently and unflinchingly showing the submissive that he is no longer in control of any aspect regarding his body.
You, the Dominant, are going to provide, possibly hand feed, and ensure that nourishment of the body happens internally before you provide sensory, emotional, and mental nourishment through a session.

Through this total and holistic approach, ownership is made complete.
Pets are given security above and beyond sexual fulfillment - they are given permission to submit to their Mistress without reservation.

What Do you think of Genital Piercings, for Pets?

"Madame, do you think that piercing a pet is a solid practice to show ownership? Have you ever had a pet pierced? Do you enjoy the way it looks?"

I am thrilled to be answering these questions, as I just had my favorite pet pierced (like this) 24 hours ago.  It's the most beautiful placement of jewelry I think I've ever seen on a male body.

I'm a huge proponent of body modification, and have had the joy of watching a pet be tattooed with my mark. That process paled in comparison to piercing, in terms of sheer power and reaction of the pet.

I believe that piercing is the most elegant and efficient means to constantly remind pets that they are owned, utterly and completely.

With genital piercings especially, the constant reminder typically keeps them constantly aroused. They are on edge, in the most deliciously torturous of ways, and they always have their Mistress on the mind.

I believe that in piercing the cock of a slave you reinforce the fact that it does not belong to that person - it belongs totally and utterly to You, the Madame/Mistress/Domme. Every time he moves, pissess, thinks about touching himself, or becomes hard, he is reminded that he has been modified by his Owner.

The experience is one that can be worked towards, providing a goal for those pets who require constant tangible motivation. (There is nothing wrong with needing such motivation, as it keeps the imagination and body at peak performance in anticipation of the novel and intriguing.)

Requiring a pet to prove his worthiness before being pierced or marked in any way reinforces his inclination to strive for perfection.
Men, as we all know, work best when put in the position to prove themselves.
This type of goal also weeds out the less-than-dedicated pets who cannot give up control or put total faith in an Owner.

The physical moment of piercing is a truly beautiful communion between pet and Owner, especially when it is approached with joy and the relief of a pet who has, all his life, striven to be owned.

Being exposed, being touched by another person in the presence of his Owner, being poked and prodded and CHANGED by someone as his Owner looks on - all of these aspects reinforce the fact that he is not in control.

How safe, secure, and blissful, no?

There is finality and peace following the pain, just like there is peace during the aftercare following a great session.
There is an ever-present addition to the pet's body that reassures him, with every step he takes, that he is never without the will of his Domme.