Attention to Detail: More Sissy Clit Talk

I'm certainly on a sissy kick as of late, and it's no wonder with the fantastic sissy clit I own and with which I get to play.

We initiated his two new piercings with the vibe the other night, and I have to say, it was the very careful attention to detail that made the experience exciting for me.

I wanted his clit to look the way I always think of it in my mind: a present, apart from his own bodily ownership, that is being offered to me for my delight and amusement.

To make this idea a reality, I hunted for the perfect ribbon in which I could wrap up my pierced and ever-so-willing sissy's package. Turns out, the lace from my 1914 Triumph Doc Martens was PERFECT. It's a thicker, satin ribbon with one shiny side and one matte side. Looping it around his clit/cock caused him to stiffen immediately, and that made the task of wrapping it a snap!

Here is the final product, and you can see he had quite the time under my vibrator!
(Each barbell was vibed, first in the center then on each end, culminating with the vibe placed on the very highest skin of the frenum.)

Kinky Foreplay - It's Not What You Think

When gearing up for D/s style play time, most novices/uninitiated envision lots of name-calling, spanking, orders being barked, and a healthy dose of leather.

It's what main-stream media and the vanilla music industry have taught you to think of when considering BDSM, Kink, or D/s interaction.

But here's the secret: D/s doesn't have to start roughly.
Sadistic Dominants are pre-programmed to want to manipulate and mark your beautiful flesh from the first second they get you on their floor/bed/bench/examining table, true.
But those who know what they are doing will start sessions in a far different fashion.

I, as a Dominant woman, prefer to savor, tease, test, and sample a blindfolded and bound submissive before I proceed with the high intensity play.

I enjoy examining, grooming, touching, tasting, kissing, and massaging my sweet and willing supplicants - because it turns me on.

Oh, you thought it was for their benefit?
I admit, it is, partially.
It gets their bodies on edge, their sensory receptors at maximum readiness.
However, I do what I do to those who submit under my touch because I love to play with my prey.

And, as a happily confirmed Sadist, I consider a submissive to be my most delicious prey.

I want to touch each appendage, I want to inspect my toy, I want to soothe and titillate the submissive before I start delivering the loving blows of my crop, whip, or paddle.

Dominants, never underestimate the joy of pampering a sub. Simply putting lotion or oil (depending on Your/their preferences) on the skin and gently rubbing it in can set a male or female submissive shaking with pleasure. Alternate with the wartenberg wheel to keep them from getting too mellowed and comfortable, and watch how they twitch and squirm in anticipation.

Showing attention and affection, while visually drinking in their prone (hopefully naked!) bodies ensures that they know they are on display...and that they are safe.

Safely enjoyed exhibitionism. What submissive DOESN'T want to show off for his/her Dominant?
Give them this opportunity to please while being perfectly still, and their minds will begin to race.

Nothing gets the body ready for playtime like an over active imagination.

So, the moral of the story is this, for any Dominants who are skipping over the grand time honored tradition of guiding your submissives into the proper mindset for play-time:

Groom and tease your pets, and they will love you for it.

Turkey Bondage: Happy Thanksgiving!

Bondage for the Kitchen

Trust me, this is a good idea.

See! He's loving it, already!

I feel like Dexter would be proud, of this...

Sub-on-Turkey Bondage: Making Thanksgiving Awesome since 2013

I love to trample men, and here's why...

Bonds - Physical v. Mental

Bondage is delightful.
The sensory input of pressure, restraint, and the texture of the bonds thrills and allows the sub a physical gateway into mental submission.

Bondage is an excellent aspect of Kink, and, in the case of shibari, a complete art form unto itself. Intricate knots, beautiful pseudo articles of clothing, slings, suspension - the list goes on and on.

Many love to admire a beautiful man or woman trussed to specifications by a skilled artist, and the erotic value of a restrained sub is (for me, at least) sky high.
Shackles and cuffs are also wonderful items - either prison grade to reinforce total submission with a dash of humiliation, or fleece lined leather to afford luxury and comfort while still providing immobility. So many options, so many avenues for sensory delight.
Physical bonds: we love them

But what about mental bonds?
What about the inherent binding power of a Domme/Dom's will as it is exerted over a submissive: that bond which can keep a submissive on their knees with a mere look; the bond that courses from hand to face with the merest tilt of a submissive's chin; the bond that is still felt even after a scene is finished, which stays with the submissive as s/he leaves and goes back into day to day life?

I would argue that this type of bond, this chemical/emotional/willful bond, is as powerful as those that bind elements unto one another.
It's this type of bond which should be the goal, the endgame, the light at the end of the long tunnel through each journey of self discovery and search for true Dominance/submission.

Am I dismissing physical bondage?
Of course not.
I'd be foolish to dismiss the physical (and fantastic) initial gateway so often necessary for passage to submission and enjoyed by so many of us as we play with our respective partner(s).

My point is that mental bonds - those forged by time and interaction and tempered by skill and knowledge - are far more powerful and far more intimate than their rope and metal counterparts.

As Dominants, we must not rely on physical bonds to assert the control given to us willingly by our needful submissives.

Needful is not a dirty word, but rather an honest admission of the state of those who would submit: the craving of a Dominant to bind them, physically or mentally, and give them total peace.