Attention to Detail: More Sissy Clit Talk

I'm certainly on a sissy kick as of late, and it's no wonder with the fantastic sissy clit I own and with which I get to play.

We initiated his two new piercings with the vibe the other night, and I have to say, it was the very careful attention to detail that made the experience exciting for me.

I wanted his clit to look the way I always think of it in my mind: a present, apart from his own bodily ownership, that is being offered to me for my delight and amusement.

To make this idea a reality, I hunted for the perfect ribbon in which I could wrap up my pierced and ever-so-willing sissy's package. Turns out, the lace from my 1914 Triumph Doc Martens was PERFECT. It's a thicker, satin ribbon with one shiny side and one matte side. Looping it around his clit/cock caused him to stiffen immediately, and that made the task of wrapping it a snap!

Here is the final product, and you can see he had quite the time under my vibrator!
(Each barbell was vibed, first in the center then on each end, culminating with the vibe placed on the very highest skin of the frenum.)

Good Vibrations (Back from Hiatus!)

I've been having quite the ball with my pet, lately, as we've delved into more creative forms of sensory play. Per his beautiful hips, legs, ass, and overall desire to be used as a sissy-girl, this has taken on a life of its own when it comes to using toys.

He has had a lovely frenum piercing directly below the head for over a year now, and I've decided that this absolutely makes his cock more like a clit. Because he loves to be sissified and treated like a slut, I've taken to using toys on him that are marketed specifically for females.

The favorite, lately, is a small magic bullet-like vibrator housed within nubbed rubber that fits over my forefinger. 
When he is in his panties and lingerie, I take the rubber tip of the vibe and place it in the center of the piercing so that it touches the skin housing the shaft of the piercing and presses into the shaft of the piercing and the penis. 
From there, I move the tip to each of the balls on either side of the piercing, alternating about every ten seconds or so. 

Watching him squirm and bite his lips is fantastic. His moans become decidedly higher than his normal speaking range, and when he answers my questions he uses a deliciously feminine tone. There's nothing forced, nothing squeaky, just a breathless, soft, higher-pitched voice begging for more.

Because he's received two more frenum piercings, stroking the shaft of his penis is out of the picture for at least another month - which makes his cock even more clit-like. 

When he must depend solely on vibration to stimulate his clit, he can be put into such total femme space that his whole body reacts - he plays with his nipples, swerves and grinds his hips, licks his full beautiful and often-glossed lips. And the words that come flying out of that mouth - tremendous!
He begs for my cock, he begs for a REAL cock, he begs to be used, he begs to be fucked - it's all so perfectly slutty, and I love it!

Sissy Beginnings - Questions, Desires, and Willingness to Work

Broaching the topic of sissy play can be daunting, especially for first timers, both male and Female.

The best attitude to take when a significant other, pet, or partner talks about sissy desires is one of openness.

Ask questions.

Be attentive to detail.

Be sure to exude and cultivate safety and security during all conversations.

I emphasize this because there is no way to understand or enjoy a fetish without first understanding where the enjoyment of that fetish comes from, both for You and your partner.

He will be nervous - and You may be slightly confused or thrown off balance - but the only way to move forward is without ambiguity.

Questions are the foundation of understanding where to start and how to move forward in exploring this new-found interest.

The more You learn about his own fantasies the more You’ll become aware that there is room for an immense amount of imagination, pleasure, and enjoyment for BOTH of you within a sissy play context.

Certain questions to ask that will bolster your understanding of his sissy desires, fantasies, and needs are as follows:

“What was it about Sissy Play that first appealed to you?”

“What types of memes, stories, and scenarios have you come across that you find to be most exciting?”

“What type of clothes are you attracted to when you think of dressing up as a gurl?”

“What are some of your own specific fantasies involving sissy play?”

“Are there particular fabrics, sensations, or items that excite you, when dressing up?”

“Have you ever thought of shaving, tweezing, and other modification type activities? If so, have you enacted any, or would you like to?”

“Do your fantasies involve women, men, or both?” (This question can be broached either at the outset or farther into the time during which you are both exploring his sissy desires. Often, the desire for one gender or the other’s involvement outside Your immediate control can fluctuate.)

The above questions are a jumping off point, and yes, they sound a bit academic. I trust that anyone reading will be able to tweak these questions to fit their own style of sissy-sleuthing. They are, by no means, a comprehensive list of points to discuss, nor are they all going to apply to every sissy. However, never be afraid of trial and error, especially when it comes to examining and discussing fantasies. More questions are ALWAYS better than too few.

Questions let him feel safe and to show him that you are interested in understanding his desires.

The greatest asset to a Dominant Female is a thorough understanding of her submissive. With a man who craves sissification, this is overwhelmingly true. He will, most likely, not fully understand his desires, himself.

This is not a bad thing.

If your partner is coming to you and discussing sissy curiosity, it is highly likely that you are the first person to whom he has expressed these desires.

Consider Yourself honored - it takes a very special Woman for a man to feel safe enough to disclose fantasies such as those involved with Sissy Play.

Along with that honor, don’t feel pressured to indulge every fantasy. Keep control and feel free to ask many, many questions and help him get to a point of knowing exactly what it is he wants. Then, sift through his desires and examine which appeal to You, his Mistress.

Next, You can refine a list of potential activities that satisfy both of Your needs. It’s not a one way process of him asking and you giving. On the contrary, you, as the Woman, have every right to mold him into your ideal Sissy.

Not only is it Your right to mold, guide, and lead, but it is essential to the process of him giving up control of his dress, affect, and sexuality as a Sissy. With You in control, he attains the freedom to feel safe when enacting his desires to feel, look, and BE feminine.

The process can’t happen all at once, and often it behooves the Domme to give Her sissy goals to attain each subsequent level of play. 

This can be a gradual escalation of physical modification followed by piece-by-piece building of lingerie wardrobes, or be as simple as allowing him to pick out one item of makeup at a time and having to earn the privilege of learning how to use each item over the span of a few weeks.

Every sissy needs to work. The effort reinforces the value of his transformation and the value of the time and attention being paid to that transformation by the Domme.

Remember: ask questions, listen, and insist on his personal examination of his desires.  Sissy play must be based in honesty and the ability to work hard in attaining transformation from masculine to Feminine.

Your job, as Mistress, is to cultivate Your sissy’s desire to become ever more dedicated to that transformation.

To be continued…

Training for Sissies - Discipline A Must!

Hello dear readers!

Today's post centers on a subject that is both fraught with nuance and rife with controversy - the proper way to keep a Sissy-in-Training in check.

(Alright, so there aren't THAT many folks up in arms over the proper technique for keeping our prissy little girlie-boys in line, but I've been privy to a few hot debates over the past two weeks, and I wanted to weigh in on where I draw the line during sissy training!)

To start, I will stress that, even when administering discipline, it is never ideal to be so harsh as to squelch a sissy's enthusiasm. After all, what makes sissies so appealing (at least, to My mind) is their incredibly sexualized drive to please. That being said, every eager sissy needs some molding to become the perfect suck-and-fuck toy for his Mistress.

Keep him reminded of his place: a pretty boy will find it easy to get caught up in his own new-found "pretty" status as he sees the way skirts, tights, high heels, dresses, and lingerie look on his well-toned body. Do not allow vanity to creep into your sissy's mind to such a degree that he becomes conceited. A sissy should take pride in what his OWNER thinks of him, not in what he thinks of himself.

Always keep your sissy aware that he has room to improve. It may be in his physical appearance, it may be in his ability to walk in those new four inch heels, or it may even be in his vocal pitch and volume. No sissy is ever a perfect sissy - and no sissy should ever feel bored, unchallenged, or as if he has no more to learn! Keep them humble to keep them happy and hungry for more training!

Keep him locked up. Chastity is key (pun absolutely intended) to reminding a sissy boy that his cock is no longer the central piece of his appeal, sexuality, or bodily awareness. Instead, by keeping him caged, you remind him that he must focus on keeping every other piece of himself up to standard: shaved, tweezed, and ready to be exposed at ANY moment.

The ideal sissy should be ready for service at all times, and must never EVER bring embarrassment to his Mistress by having stray hairs, scruff, or stubble interfere with his feminine appearance. Failure to maintain proper sissy-hygiene will result in denial of sissy dress, play, and recognition from the Mistress.

Remember, Owners: the greatest act of discipline for a sissy is to be stripped of his sissy identity. When a girlie-boy misbehaves, slacks off, or otherwise disappoints his Mistress, he has forfeited the privilege of being Her sissy, and all the trappings that come with that distinction.

It is not the right of a sissy boy to be dressed, caged, exhibited, or shared for use and abuse. As Mistresses, we hold the power to fulfill or deny the fantasies, desires, and deeply-rooted needs of sissy-boys - we must ensure that each one who enjoys Our control has, first, earned the privilege to enjoy that control.

"Forced Bisexual Activity - Is it an option for Your submissives, as a ProDomme?"

"my question is around forced bi activity. for me the highest level of trust is to do for your MISTRESS thing that you didn't think you will ever do and when you trust her, every barrier is crossed without hesitation. how difficult is to make sub having homosexual activity if he is not naturally BI sexual? is it something YOU will recommend to most Mistress and subs?"

IMPORTANT NOTE: This question is being asked in the context of TPE (total power exchange) in which the submissive male has willingly and with full understanding given a Dominant Female power to choose his sexual partners. There is no sexual abuse, rape, or non-consensual interaction.

So, we're discussing the "forcing of bisexual activity" on a straight sub, as part of instruction in a TPE relationship with his Mistress.

The fluidity of force, such as the kind present in TPE, inherently implies the opposite of force, which is willing consent.
The submissive male has WILLINGLY CONSENTED to give up the right to refuse his Mistress.
He has actively informed her that he wishes to be "forced" to do things outside of his current comfort zone.
This shows a remarkably beautiful level of trust in the Dominant Female to push limits with the utmost responsibility.

The activity described is not a game.
It is not roleplaying.
It is a Dominant Woman ordering a submissive male to engage with another male, sexually.

There are several possible purposes for this activity:

The first being to cement the submissive male's total devotion and trust in his Mistress by placing him in a situation where he must choose either his own desires or those of his Madame. (However, as with any TPE, it is the great irony that the submissive's desire IS to please the Madame, and so he must, naturally, enjoy doing whatever he is told to do, even if the activity is not one he would EVER engage in outside of his servitude to the Mistress.)

The second possible purpose is to create a scene in which a submissive male can have the freedom to explore sexual interaction with another male. So many men have been programmed and conditioned to believe that this type of sexual experimentation is so wrong, so foul, and so indicative of weakness that they require the presence of a Female Dominant to literally give them permission to explore other men.

The third possible purpose is to delve into one of the most extreme forms of sexual humiliation possible, for truly straight submissive men. For those who crave total and abject humiliation, being told to sexually please another man for the enjoyment of their Mistress is the ultimate experience in exploitation and humiliation.

I do not recommend this activity to most Mistresses or Their subs because this is a dynamic that can be realized by only the most intelligent, considerate, aware, and experienced Dommes.
It takes many months (and possibly years) of interaction, in my opinion, to build a D/s relationship to the level of trust at which a truly heterosexual submissive male could safely/sanely be commanded to sexually please another man for the Mistress.

With all safety and consent in place, the potential for pleasure during a ForcedBi scene is off the charts, for all parties involved.
I have enacted such a scene with a long-term submissive and one of his close friends, after weeks of discussion and preparation.
The two men were both interested in each other and both found a huge amount of release in being instructed to touch and be touched. Being given permission was the greatest aphrodisiac, to both of them, and the power I so clearly had over them was mind-blowingly erotic.

I highly encourage anyone considering ForcedBi play to be open, honest, and exploratory in their conversations with their Mistresses/partners.

Go forth, and be Kinky!

"What attracts you, as a ProDomme, to Sissy Play?"

"Madame, I would like to ask why you, personally, enjoy sissy-play and sissification?"

I love the personal questions!

For me, the enjoyment of sissification and sissy play comes from the extreme mental PE (power exchange) through physical modification.

There's so much to do: costumes, make up, shoes, hosiery, maid outfits, training outfits, lingerie, clit ties, taping...the list never seems to stop! The only limits on the extent of sissification are within my and my client's imagination.

I love meeting a man who in vanilla life is a suit-wearing, top exec, but who yearns to put on those red lace panties and be forced to wear lipstick and rouge.

I love tying a pretty little bow on the boy-clit of a construction worker whose body hair must be shaved, meticulously, before every session, to enhance his total transition to sissy princess.

I enjoy the process of understanding where these men come from, why they love what they love, what drives them to live such dualities of masculinity and femininity.

I enjoy watching and effecting the physical and mental transformations that occur during each session, and truly relish the trust and total honesty inherent to such intimate sessions.

Every client is so different, every set of desires so varied. I find it to be a fetish that forces me, as a professional, to be better, more imaginative, more analytical, and more creative. I am thankful for every client who presents me with the opportunity to indulge such a complex fetish!

I very much love the aspects of sissy-play within the context of personal relationships, as well.
I adore watching a cherished sub open presents that are lacey, pink, soft, flowing, and/or slutty.
The looks of happiness and girlish excitment as they shimmy into panties, skirts, and hosiery never cease to make me smile.
I love applying lip gloss, in bright sparkling flamingo pink, to the lips of sweet sissies who want nothing more than to feel pretty.