Broaching the topic of sissy play can be
daunting, especially for first timers, both male and Female.
The best attitude to take when a significant
other, pet, or partner talks about sissy desires is one of openness.
Ask questions.
Be attentive to detail.
Be sure to exude and cultivate safety and
security during all conversations.
I emphasize this because there is no way to
understand or enjoy a fetish without first understanding where the enjoyment of
that fetish comes from, both for You and your partner.
He will be nervous - and You may be slightly
confused or thrown off balance - but the only way to move forward is without
ambiguity.
Questions are the foundation of understanding
where to start and how to move forward in exploring this new-found interest.
The more You learn about his own fantasies the
more You’ll become aware that there is room for an immense amount of
imagination, pleasure, and enjoyment for BOTH of you within a sissy play
context.
Certain questions to ask that will bolster your
understanding of his sissy desires, fantasies, and needs are as follows:
“What was it about Sissy Play that first
appealed to you?”
“What types of memes, stories, and scenarios
have you come across that you find to be most exciting?”
“What type of clothes are you attracted to when
you think of dressing up as a gurl?”
“What are some of your own specific fantasies
involving sissy play?”
“Are there particular fabrics, sensations, or
items that excite you, when dressing up?”
“Have you ever thought of shaving, tweezing, and
other modification type activities? If so, have you enacted any, or would you
like to?”
“Do your fantasies involve women, men, or both?”
(This question can be broached either at the outset or farther into the time
during which you are both exploring his sissy desires. Often, the desire for
one gender or the other’s involvement outside Your immediate control can
fluctuate.)
The above questions are a jumping off point, and
yes, they sound a bit academic. I trust that anyone reading will be able to
tweak these questions to fit their own style of sissy-sleuthing. They are, by no means, a comprehensive list of points to discuss, nor are they all going to apply to every sissy. However, never be afraid of trial and error, especially when it comes to examining and discussing fantasies. More questions are ALWAYS better than too few.
Questions let him feel safe and to show him that
you are interested in understanding his desires.
The greatest asset to a Dominant Female is a thorough
understanding of her submissive. With a man who craves sissification, this is
overwhelmingly true. He will, most likely, not fully understand his desires,
himself.
This is not a bad thing.
If your partner is coming to you and discussing sissy
curiosity, it is highly likely that you are the first person to whom he has
expressed these desires.
Consider Yourself honored - it takes a very
special Woman for a man to feel safe enough to disclose fantasies such as those
involved with Sissy Play.
Along with that honor, don’t feel pressured to
indulge every fantasy. Keep control and feel free to ask many, many questions
and help him get to a point of knowing exactly what it is he wants. Then, sift
through his desires and examine which appeal to You, his Mistress.
Next, You can refine a list of potential activities
that satisfy both of Your needs. It’s not a one way process of him asking and
you giving. On the contrary, you, as the Woman, have every right to mold him
into your ideal Sissy.
Not only is it Your right to mold, guide, and
lead, but it is essential to the process of him giving up control of his dress,
affect, and sexuality as a Sissy. With You in control, he attains the freedom
to feel safe when enacting his desires to feel, look, and BE feminine.
The process can’t happen all at once, and often
it behooves the Domme to give Her sissy goals to attain each subsequent level
of play.
This can be a gradual escalation of physical modification followed by
piece-by-piece building of lingerie wardrobes, or be as simple as allowing him
to pick out one item of makeup at a time and having to earn the privilege of
learning how to use each item over the span of a few weeks.
Every sissy needs to work. The effort reinforces
the value of his transformation and the value of the time and attention being
paid to that transformation by the Domme.
Remember: ask questions, listen, and insist on
his personal examination of his desires.
Sissy play must be based in honesty and the ability to work hard in
attaining transformation from masculine to Feminine.
Your job, as Mistress, is to cultivate Your
sissy’s desire to become ever more dedicated to that transformation.
To be continued…
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